How to Survive Living With Party Girls (and Guys)

By Kathryn Wingfield on August 23, 2012

College. It’s all fun and games until you find out your roommate drinks. A lot.

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Evidently it’s a well-known fact that a majority of students drink or “party” in college. I’m not sure when the definition of “party” shifted from pinatas and birthday cake to substance abuse in a group setting, but it’s pretty clear on campus that when someone says they’re going to “get their party on,” they do not mean pulling on a cone-shaped paper hat and blowing out candles. If you’re not part of this new “party” definition and you live with someone who is, you’ve got a long road ahead of you for these four years. Don’t worry, though- if you can make it out alive, you’ll make it out on top, and maybe even end up with some party favors to boot.

Rule One: Don’t fall to the habits of those around you. It’s surprisingly easy to say no when your roomie asks you to go out with their weekend (or weekday) crew, but harder when it happens every day. Just because you live with someone doesn’t mean you have to fall in step with their schedule and habits. Stick to your own needs, like catching up on the latest season of Workaholics, spending some time with your non-partying buddies, or, what is that thing called again… homework?

Rule Two: Make it work for you. Everyone loves a little alone time here and there, and that’s hard to get in college. Party crews will likely go out almost every night, leaving you a room to yourself. Use the time to read a book in peace, call a friend, or indulge in some deep sleep- anything that requires quiet. Embrace this special arrangement and enjoy a break from the madness.

Rule Three: Set boundaries. Drunk roomies will arrive home in one of two fashions. A) They will stumble through the door and pass out face down on their bed until sunrise. Or, B) They will make a grand entrance complete with hiccups, the occasional vomiting, incomprehensible yelling, and a friend who is clumsily trying to usher them into bed. If you are woken up in the wee hours of the morning, don’t roll over and pretend to be asleep. Sit up, throw them a groggy glare, and definitely mention it in the morning. Without clear expectations in the roomie relationship, they won’t hesitate to repeat the pattern night after night. And bring over friends. Lots of them. Until 3 a.m. Or later.

Rule Four: Don’t judge. It’s easy to point fingers when you’re studying away and your roommate would rather crack a beer than crack a book, but judging their actions won’t help any part of your relationship. Instead, express any concerns gently and don’t hesitate to talk to your RA about the situation. Even if you are a piñata-party person stuck with a tequila-party person, there’s still plenty of opportunity to form a lasting friendship based on common ground… like your love of pizza.

I'm a junior journalism major at the University of Oklahoma who spends too much time on the Internet.

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